What Neglect There Is To the Argument... About Loneliness
Updated on January 11, 2006, 9:56 PM - Written by Tim Buttner
Boredom is a cumbersome thing. We all suffer from it, and all could probably write a book about the things we do to fight off the boredom. We could write a book in our boredom. Alas, some of us don't hold the valuable asset of creative word structure. So what do we do with this free time? this boredom? Who can help us overcome it? Often the worst boredom comes from when you have nothing to do with anyone. See, because then, there is no one to help come up with ideas on what to do. It all comes down to the old saying, "The greatest bore is loneliness."
Anyone can claim to have found the most boring activity on Earth, such as hours of long arithmetic, biology of snails and mollusks, or watching water boil. Well, that last one can be boring if you do it alone, but that supports my thesis. All those activities can support my thesis when one does it alone. I'll relate an activity I participated in that I thought was the most boring I'd ever encountered, until I realized that it was because I did it alone. See, if you ever are doing a boring activity with a friend, or even an enemy for that matter, it makes it more interesting because you are doing it with someone and have the opportunity to joke and make fun of what you are doing.
I recently had to wait in a doctor's office for about twenty minutes in the waiting room, and then, an hour and thirteen minutes in the examining room. I timed it because of how bored I was. Out in the waiting room there were people who I could interact with or listen to the stories they told. Once in the examining room, there was no one. There were plenty of toys for me to play with, but how embarrassing that would be because if the doctor suddenly walked in… So I sat patiently for him to enter. My appointment was for 8AM and I got into the examining room at 8:20. At 8:48 I started to wonder where the doctor was. There were no magazines in the room for some reason, nor was there anything to read except for some horrible little pamphlets about some sexual disease. I started to pace the room, but I got bored with that as well. There wasn't much I could do but sit on the examining bed and daydream. In my daydreams I was even bored. At an hour in, I started to rummage the room for things to do, something to play with. I couldn't find a thing. I was in a black hole. I lay my head back on the bed and let my mind go finally. I let my mind wander and fall victim to delusion. At long last the doctor came in the room, and the whole appointment took five minutes. Unbelievable.
The largest part of my story is that if there were someone in the room with me, someone for me to chat with and joke with, everything would have run more smoothly. For all I know my companion could've gotten annoyed enough with the service to go out and talk with he receptionist. Instead, I had to bear it all out by my lonesome. If I had music that would have made the experience more enjoyable, or if I had anticipated the wait and meditated the whole time, or arrived an hour and thirty minutes after I had. The worst part of the whole experience was that boredom causes time to feel longer than it actually is. One minute stretches out to be three. It is accentuated by boredom itself. No matter what I could have done, it was the loneliness that caused the boredom to be at an apex.
The best way to avoid boredom is to engage oneself in activities. Such engaging activities as sports, interactive work groups, community service, and helping other people simply to be a decent human being are enough to bring one into contact with other people and avoid loneliness. Going to the movies with friends, going out to dinner with family, or sitting down and chatting with the neighbors can all seem like boring activities to a few people. And they can be, but so long as other people surround them the time can pass by quicker. Some loneliness and boredom can result in depression, which is an unhealthy state of mind. One does not wish to feel lonely, nor do they want to be away from people. Interaction, or any form of contact with other humans, is a necessity for the human species. It is so with all organisms of this planet. The mind constantly needs to be expanded and without the interaction and argumentation between people, the mind cannot broaden its processes.
No one enjoys solitude. Though people may put there physical bodies into a secluded place and survive without contact for some time, ultimately they will become weak because their brain will weaken. They will feel somewhat stupefied, lightheaded, and delirious. Almost as if they've become sleep deprived or begun early stages of starvation. This is because they have not fulfilled their need for interaction, just like the need for rest and replenishment. Loneliness is a decrepit thing, and it can destroy the mind of any human or, universal organism, it encounters.
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